Have a talk with your kids about cannabis

Keeping the lines of communication open with kids can make a big difference in preventing harms from cannabis use.

Talking with kids about substance use can be a challenge for some parents, but those conversations matter. Becoming informed about cannabis and creating a safe and receptive environment to begin the conversation with your teen can promote lasting open and positive communication.

Test Run your Cannabis Talk

There’s no one right way to have the cannabis talk. Test run your approach here and prepare for every reaction before you talk with your teen.

Question 1You want to talk to your teen about cannabis. How do you get in the right frame of mind?

I decide what I want to say in advance, and stick to the script.

It’s good to have goals. But your teen might be more receptive if you try an open, objective approach.

I remind myself I’m the parent and they’re the child, so they have to listen to me.

Put yourself in your teen’s shoes. How would you like to be spoken to regarding a difficult topic? Maybe think about how you felt as a teen.

I decide not to plan too many of the details ahead of time, and take it as it comes.

An open approach is great. But setting goals for the talk will help you review what went right or wrong, or what’s left to discuss.

Question 2How do you let your teen know when it’s time to have a talk?

I approach them casually and ask if they have a minute to chat.

A spontaneous approach is good. Try taking a walk, sitting outside or talking in another open space that’s free of distractions.

I tell them we need to talk after dinner, giving them time to prepare.

Announcing a sit-down meeting might be met with resistance, and could cause anxiety for you both in the lead-up.

Question 3How do you think body language could play into your talk?

I can watch my teen’s body language for clues about what they’re thinking or feeling.

Sure, but what about your own body language? Avoid pointing or crossed arms. If your teen is sitting, sit too. If not, ask them to sit with you.

I should be mindful of what my own body language is communicating to my teen.

That’s exactly right. Keep a relaxed posture and use open gestures, like uncrossed arms or legs. No finger pointing.

Question 4You want to know if your teen is smoking pot. How do you approach the big question?

I know you’re using pot, so you might as well tell me.

Lecturing, accusations or judgements may make your teen shut down, tune out or get angry. Try an open-ended question instead.

I have to ask: are you smoking pot?

If you want more than just a “yes” or “no” answer, ask open-ended questions. Try starting with “tell me more…”

I’d like to know if you’ve had any experiences with pot. Is there anything you can share with me?

Yes! An open-ended approach will give you more insight into your teen’s thoughts and feelings, and into the pressures they may be facing.

Question 5Once the conversation’s started, how would you express your concerns about cannabis?

You should never smoke pot. Not only is it stupid, it’s bad for you.

Words matter. Commands and criticisms can cause resistance and shame. Instead try non-judgemental words that show concern and understanding.

I’d prefer you don’t smoke pot. It’s harmful and unhealthy. Let’s explore healthier options.

Well done. Words that are free of shame or judgement will help you make your point in a positive, compassionate way.

For more help talking to your teen about pot, download the complete Cannabis Talk Kit.

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Create a safe environment for conversation.
You can have a respectful and open dialogue with your teen that stays balanced and calm.

Be patient, stay positive, and be clear about your boundaries.
These skills can take practice; so if the talk doesn’t go the way you hoped it might, remember that you will have other opportunities to try them.